Let the Process Be the Goal

This past weekend I flew home for a baby shower. Once I get all my photos uploaded then I will post about the shower. I had a great time and was extremely touched by all of the love and support. Of course, whenever I fly home the number one thing I am excited about is to spend time with family and friends. A very close second would be a visit to The Yoga Room. This place is one of Tulsa’s treasures in my opinion. I have been to many yoga studios in Columbus to search for something similar and have yet to be successful. My sister, who lives in St. Louis, has run into the same problem. A lot of the other yoga studios I have been to seem mainly focused on the physical aspect of yoga and don’t really have a meditative side to them. I know it is not very yoga-like of me to compare and I should try and feel content with the options that I have. The Yoga Room will always be my favorite though. During the session this past weekend, the instructor said two things that really resonated with me. I thought I would share in the hope that if it helped me then perhaps it might do the same for you.

Let the process be the goal

When he said that I found myself just repeating it throughout the practice. I really felt like he was speaking directly to me. It is easy for me to get caught up in what I perceive the end result of this adoption process to be. However, once I reach that goal then if I continue with this way of thinking then I will always be focused on the next goal and the next one. It is a lot of future thinking that isn’t always productive. However, if I try to steady my mind on the process then I am living more in the moment and can be more open to the blessings of today. Let the process be the goal.

Don’t indulge imagination

Oh my, I am the queen of this! My imagination takes me to all sorts of really terrible places. Why am I worrying about things that haven’t happened? Does it do me any good to wonder about what will happen if we don’t make it through court before rainy season? Nope. There is still the real possibility that we will. And if we don’t? We’ll be okay. We will be sad but we will be okay. Other people have done it and so can we. I am doing my best to not give into the fear about all that might happen and instead just know and trust that it will work out in the end. Don’t indulge imagination.

Amen to that.