Waiting sucks. Profound, I know. Late last week I was in a bad place. Thursday was an especially tough day. I was at work and was having a hard time reading the computer screen because of the tears that kept getting in the way. I emailed my boss and let her know I was stepping outside for a minute. I made my way to the parking lot behind our building and just let it all out. In that moment, I couldn’t be strong or optimistic or positive. I needed to be sad and depressed. The anticipation of the call is so emotionally draining and each day it just gets harder and harder. There is a Japanese proverb that goes something like, “fall down seven times and stand up eight.” So that’s what I did. I did it mostly with the help of other adoptive moms-in-waiting. Thank goodness for the technology of texts, Facebook and email. I am still bummed that we remain referral-less but it is what it is.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Trying to Still Believe
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Hang in there!!!! I am a huge GLEE fan also;).
ReplyDeleteBrenda
You will make it. And it will be worth it. I promise! Take breaks when you need to. Shop, eat cookie dough, whatever. You'll make it.
ReplyDeleteI want this for you so badly! NOW.
ReplyDeleteJust know that your baby is there and being cared for like no other.
When you're waiting (& waiting & waiting) and everything seems like the unknown, the one thing you can (almost) know for certain while sitting at the #1 spot is that your child is getting ready for you. They are seeing the doctor, having paperwork processed and even playing. Yes, they're probably in a better state of mind than their mamas at this point!
In any event, it's all happening. It really is.
I can't wait to read your Call Story.
It's coming.
XO
I'm with Tam. He (yep I said he) is getting ready. Also LOVE improv everywhere.
ReplyDeletei cannot imagine waiting at the front on the list for more than a day.... praying for you to get your referral THIS WEEK!
ReplyDeleteOur thoughts are with you as well. Although we are not at #1, we are feeling the same way!
ReplyDeleteyou crack me up. and i am freaking out with your wait. it's so exciting! it's going to be soon. and it will be wonderful. and we are all going to freak out. and be celebrating with you like crazy!
ReplyDeletei wish i could come hang out with you now. we need to have conference call girls' night out ... don't you think.
xoxoxooxoxooxoxoxo! soon ... oh who will you meet? chills, absolute insane chills just thinking about it.
And do you know what else is neat? Somebody from this wonderful community of Gladney adoptive parents has seen your babe. He's been loved on by a friend. I didn't know how much that would matter to me, but it did.
ReplyDeleteAnd I said he too, though I'm now thinking it's a girl. :)
Hang in there. It is coming. And I can't wait to hear about it.
Hoping that you get your good news very soon!
ReplyDeleteWas Biggest Loser not so inspiring tonight! Hope it got your mind off of things for a moment. It will come and all of the waiting (and it does totally stink) will be a thing of the past........not that it helps you right now. Ready to celebrate with you guys!
ReplyDeleteHang in there. We are praying for you as you wait. Stay positive, it is coming - Laura and Jim Sherman
ReplyDeletePraying for you! I know that when you see his/her face all the pain of this waiting will change! Praying that is soon!
ReplyDeleteWell, after a crappy day at work, I came home to this... as a fellow buckeye (sort of) it made me smile.
ReplyDeleteSoon, soon, soon. It will be soon (although I know that each day that goes by is miserable), and it will be totally worth it. Those tears will be forgotten in the light of a new and awesome day!
I just wish that I was a little closer, and I'd take you out for the evening to take your mind off the wait.
your baby is *this close*
ReplyDeletewhat tam said is true! your baby is being loved on and playing and getting ready to be a part of your family. soon. soon. but, um, NOW would be wonderful too! hang in there.
I love that Japanese proverb. So true and profound.
ReplyDeleteI think about you and Damon daily (weird considering we've never met in "real" life) but I'm constantly hoping your referral comes soon. And it will. It is inevitable. But I know that doesn't make the wait any easier for you.
I know when it does come though, it will be the perfect child for you two.
Everyday, I hope is THE day for you.
I'm pretty sure we're kindred spirits. Glee and Modern Family are my favorite shows, too!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry this wait is dragging on for so long and that hope is getting harder to hold onto. Your call just has to be coming sometime soon!
This was the first flash mob video I ever saw:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7EYAUazLI9k
I can't watch it without crying big, whopping tears of JOY!
Love you!
The waiting can be excruciating at times, but it's all worth it when you see that little face... but for now... waiting still sucks...especially when you know it will be any minute now... hang in there!
ReplyDeleteOh, hang in there! I can't imagine how tough it is when you are THIS CLOSE. Cry when you need to - it definitely helps me.
ReplyDeleteOn another note, I didn't know you were a Buckeye! I'm a Boilermaker, but I grew up in Ann Arbor (I know, boo, hiss) and my brother went to OSU.
And I love each and every version of these Glee flashmobs (or whatever they're called) - too fun!
I feel ya, we are few families behind you on the waitlist. Hang in there... your call is coming any day! May is our month!!
ReplyDeletep.s. GO BUCKEYES! I am an Ohio girl too... born & raised, now living out west. Love the video!
Waiting stinks, hang in there just a little longer. It can't be far!!!
ReplyDeleteThinking of you. Hang in there, Honey, it's coming. I am going to be holding and kissing and taking pictures and video of that little person soon!
ReplyDeleteI just realized you went on the wait list on the one year anniversary of my blog, my blogaversary, LOL
Love you!!!!!!!!!!!!